“I don’t need to set an alarm” you think to yourself. “The baby always wakes up at 6.”
Baby wakes up. You wipe the drool off the side of your face and your grope for your phone on your bedside table.
You look at the time. It’s 8 am!
Seriously. You’re late. The baby alarm didn’t work so well.
You’re rushing around like a mad chook who knows he’s about to be made dinner.
And you sense the impending doom.
You brush your hair back into a ponytail. You’ve nailed the whole French Capsule wardrobe look. You feel uber chic.
The baby spits up all over your cute t-shirt. That message you sent to your friend 5 mins again that ‘you’re on your way’ feels a little bit awkward now.
You finally clean the baby and yourself up and you’re out the door to your baby music classes.
You close the door behind you. You get down to the car and you realise the keys are still inside the house.
You end up waiting for the locksmith because your husband’s phone is probably flat again and so he’s uncontactable.
$167 later and you’re back in your house.
Some days are like that aren’t they?
One bad thing turns into another bad thing turns into another bad thing.
And it’s really easy for us with anxiety to really ramp up our anxiety levels when that is happening.
Cause the thing with anxiety is that things that feel out of control can cause us to spiral downwards.
It feels sickening.
You know. Cause you had plans and everything is just completely pooping itself all over them. You can’t cope.
So what can you do to stop a bad day in its tracks?
Here are 5 tips to help you on your way to a rad day.
Stop the negative self talk
Usually one bad thing in the day is fine. But add in the 2nd or the 3rd and anxiety girl comes in. “Why does this always happen to me?” “Seriously. Today?” “What’s next?”
Stop the talk in your tracks. Have you noticed that when you speak like that the whole day in fact becomes exactly like you’ve been telling yourself? You’re speaking that into existence beauty!
It may sound a little like ‘whatever Di’ but what I do is I stop and I affirm in myself “Today is going to be a good day. No harm will come to me.”
Once I’ve done that though I evaluate how I can then shift it into a good day. (See next step).
Change your schedule (if you can) and create a good day
Someone gave me some parenting advice (yeah cause everyone has an opinion right), but seriously this one is a good one.
On the bad days get out of your house.
And girlfriend it so works.
Being cooped up at home can often make the situation feel so much worse.
Those are the days I head out for my hot chocolate and cake! (Or cocowhip and smoothie). Even if Flynn is being weird he seems to also cope with getting out and about. There’s just something about a change of scenery.
For those of you who are social hermits. I get it. You don’t want to get out. You want to wallow at home in self pity under your blanky cupping your icecream close to your heart. Intuitively ask yourself if that’s what you are meant to do. (Cause sometimes that’s actually the perfect cure). If not choose a place where you can go that doesn’t cause you overwhelm. Head to a quiet park. Go to the library. Whatever it is that makes you dial down your anxiety and makes you feel peaceful.
Cry and get it all out
Yep. I said it. When I was having my bad day the other day I could feel the tears welling up and I tried pushing them back.
I stopped. And I let the tears fall.
What was coming up for me?
I realised that I was mourning the loss of my independence. Flynn has been super clingy of late. He’s also been getting up at weird hours after having a year of me getting used to him sleeping through.
Once I acknowledged “It is what it is” I was able to move forward in my day. In other words, accepting this season instead of resisting it made the world of difference.
Then I looked down and this cute little boy was tugging at my pants with the biggest smile on his face. I scooped him up, with tears still streaming down my face and gave him the biggest mumma cuddle.
Ramp Up Your Self Care
This perhaps can go hand in hand with the whole getting out of the house tip. Buy yourself a nice bath bomb to use when you get home. Borrow that book you’ve been wanting to read from the library. Head to your gym and punch it out on the boxing bag.
Choose 1 thing you like to do and do it.
Remember self care does not need to be time consuming. On a lot of times self care to me looks like making a cup of tea in the most beautiful mug I have.
Seek out your sisters in your sisterhood
Message a sister or call her. That’s what a sisterhood is for. To help one another in these stressful situations. You don’t need to hide when you are struggling. It can make a world of difference to talk to someone who just gets you.
A Beautiful God Reminder
And when you feel like you have nothing left Isaiah 60:1 says “Get out of bed, Jerusalem. Wake up. Put your face in the sunlight. God’s bright glory has risen for you. The whole earth is wrapped in darkness, all people sunk in deep darkness, but God rises on you. His glory breaks over you.”
Even though it may feel dark right now, God’s glory is rising over you. Just lift your face into the sunlight. Take a deep breath.
You’ve got this.
What do you do to help stop a bad day in its tracks? Comment below. I would love to hear from you. Please share the post using the buttons below if you loved it. If you would love to be able to stop a bad day in its tracks so you can feel cool, calm and collected, get on a call with me. Email me: firstname.lastname@example.org. My work with me packages can be found HERE.
Hi Diana! This post is so timely. I had a shitty yesterday to the point where I feel like walking away from my business/work/teaching/sharing. I feel little unsettled by sometimes how our efforts go unnoticed and how much when we want something it hasn’t happened. This makes me question everything! So today I just decided to focus on doing things that nurture me and make me happy. Although I feel better the confusion still looms. Thank you for being a light in my day today.
Kajal. I’m sorry to hear that you had such a bad day yesterday. Biz can be hard work. So much of what we do feels like it goes unseen and then you find out later that something has actually resonated with someone. You are having an impact, whether you see it or not, you are such a generous and kind hearted woman (I see your helpful posts in groups, it has not gone unnoticed). I am glad you took time out for you. It is ok to feel confused lovely. Just take each day as it comes. Process the confusion and what is coming up for you, please feel free to email me if you would love some help. Beauty, keep shining bright!